“Life is a moving, breathing thing. We have to be willing to constantly evolve. Perfection is constant transformation.” – Nia Peeples
The aim of our lives should be to become the best version of ourselves and it is not a very simple task. Learning to love yourself and learning to actually know your worth is a long journey that requires patience, sacrifice, and perseverance. The first step is to clear the clutter. This involves letting go of people who aren’t good for your soul, no matter how much you love them.
Here are toxic traits you must get rid of and not tolerate if they are manifested in others:
1. Trying To Please Others
“Don’t waste your time with explanations: people only hear what they want to hear.” ― Paulo Coelho
Never at any point in life should you do what others want of you by going against your true self. You are not here to please others; you are here to follow your own dreams. Don’t think anyone will understand your journey and accept your choices – if you respect yourself, other people’s opinions don’t matter.
2. Negative Thoughts
“You live most of your life inside your head. Make sure it’s a nice place to be.”
You become what you think. If you are constantly scrutinizing your mistakes, you are depriving yourself the time to heal and evolve into a better individual. Nurture positive thoughts and you’ll feel the difference in your life choices.
“The ship is safest when it’s in port, but that’s not what ships were built for.” ― Paulo Coelho
Change is indeed the only constant. If you get stuck in a place for way too long then you start developing fears that chain you down. In order to grow, you need to break the shackles and widen the horizon of your mind. The world is full of endless possibilities; do not restrict yourself because it is snug in there.
4. Fitting In
“Two roads diverged in a wood, and I — I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference.” -Robert Frost
If you are going to be the one who follows the crowd just to “fit in”, then you will achieve nothing. Find your voice, carve your own path, and success is sure to follow. Do not listen to people who always pull you down, if you respect yourself, people will know how to treat you.
5. Do What You Want
Don’t do something merely for the sake of paying the bills. Take up a job that is fulfilling, that helps you grow as an individual and that makes you happy. If you respect yourself, you will know your worth. Yes, it is difficult but hang in there and believe in yourself.
6. Prioritize Your Health
Health is wealth. If you don’t take care of yourself, no one else will. If you love yourself, you will look after your emotional and physical needs. You will not neglect your health because it is the fuel for your dreams.
7. Get Rid Of Toxic Relationships
A relationship enables two people to grow together. Do not let anyone dictate what you do or manipulate you into doing things that are not good for your well being. It is okay to love someone but isn’t the ticket to treating yourself like a doormat. Know when to leave.
It is a cardinal sin and the worst distraction in today’s age. The things you own end up owning you – so know that you are the master of your mind. Discipline is the only way you achieve your dreams, do not waste your time.
9. Choose To Be Happy
There are millions of people who settle for less than what they deserve because they do not value themselves. They choose misery because they do not know how to be happy. Happiness is a state of mind that requires courage. You have to let go of the things, the people, the decisions that drag you down to make space for a happier you.