What are the basic relationship principles that you value most? Most people will say faithfulness, loyalty and commitment. They are the top 3 values that should always be priority and never compromised, no matter how much you think you love someone. By ignoring signs that any of these principles are being violated, will only end in trouble and heart break. It doesn’t matter if you have been together forever, you need to know the signs. Not every relationship is meant to last forever, and it’s up to us to accept it so we are able to grow and move on to something better. No matter how painful it may seem.
What a lot of people choose to ignore, is the fact that cheating does NOT have to be a physical thing. Emotional cheating is very real and very wrong, just like physically cheating is. It’s often forgiven though, because we have become such physical creatures, even when you feel betrayed or hurt, it’s so easier to forgive and “forget” when the cheating was never physically intimate. That is the problem though, not only are you subconsciously telling your partner that you are okay with being emotionally cheated on, but you are allowing them to disrespect your relationship. Now of course, not every emotional, or even physical cheater will cheat again, but the chance is highly likely. If they got away with it the first time, what’s to stop them doing it again?
While it may be tricky to actually “catch” someone emotionally cheating on you, without violating their privacy and going through their phone, there are some signs you can look out for instead. Never violate the trust you have established by snooping, this makes you no better than they are, if it turns out you were right, and puts you in a really bad position if you were wrong…
These are the top 5 signs to look out for, if you think your partner might be emotionally cheating
Not Invested In The Relationship
A huge cause for concern and definite red light, feeling like your partner isnt making any effort. In a healthy relationship, both parties put in equal work and love, and are willing to give more than they expect to receive. If you find yourself in a situation where you are doing all the giving but none of the receiving and your partner has stopped putting in any effort into your relationship, it might be because he/she is giving it to someone or something else instead.
Irritable and Defensive
This one is quite obvious, but when someone is hiding something, they tend to be jumpy and very irritable. You may ask your partner a simple question, only to find them snapping back at you or avoiding and changing the subject. They may get very defensive and accuse you of being insecure. in turn switching the focus on you rather than them. For someone who is hiding something, this is a typical defense mechanism.
No Time For Quality Time
You and your partner used to have so much fun, but now it seems as though you never do. Gone are the days of dates and cuddles, replaced by awkward silence and excuses not to go anywhere or do anything with you. If you feel like all the joy and fun has stopped, and you barely spend time with one another anymore, you do have to ask yourself why it’s suddenly stopped.
Protective Over Their Social Media and Phone
Suddenly you notice a password on your partners phone, or they seem to be hanging onto it, they always log out of social media, even if just going for a quick bathroom break. You may want to use their computer for something and they make up some ridiculous excuse as to why you can’t right now. More often than not, this is a massive indication that they are hiding something from you.
Your Intuition Says So
Trust your gut. It’s not something all of us do, often ignoring our instincts when something feels wrong, because we don’t want to accept the truth. Your intuition is there for a reason, it’s there to keep you safe. If you sense something is being kept from you, you’re probably right.